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Friday, January 24, 2014

Whatever Happened to Pam & Oskar?

Hello friends,

We've been hibernating for quite some time.  After successfully making it through the holidays & the Polar Vortex I've been hiding.

The fact of the matter is that regardless of things going pretty well in my life right now, my depression has kept me in bed for weeks.

Being bi-polar means never knowing when you brain is going to decide to turn your life inside out. I've been spending up to 20 hours a day in bed and go days without even looking at the computer.

Now I have over 1,600 hundred emails in my in box and am overwhelmed about where to start. If you've reached out to me to be added to the blogroll, be featured or to partner with me on a project, I'm sorry for the radio silence.

I've realized that Pet Blogs United has really run off the rails in the past year.  I would do a review & giveaway of any product that I thought my readers might like, I've done sponsored guest posts that I didn't feel good about because honestly there were times when I needed the money.  How's that for journalistic integrity?

There's also been some emotional turmoil with many blogging friends being ill or crossing the Rainbow Bridge.
On a personal level my parents had to have their Shih-Tzu Buster put to sleep.  They got Buster just a few months after my youngest son Jack was born 18 years ago and he has been a huge part of our life.

I'm also struggling to redefine my role in this world as my boys are not really boys anymore.  My oldest son John David is almost 22 and he lives with his boyfriend about an hour away.  This has been a very difficult adjustment for me, even though he left almost a year ago. (Side note ~ if anyone has anything negative to say about my son's sexuality keep it to yourself and please don't come back to my blog.)  Jack is 18 and finishing up his senior year of high school.  Jack spends 50% of his time at his dad's house, plus he has school, work, an adorable new girlfriend and lots hanging out with friends to do.
John David, Me & Jack
I have long defined myself as a mother.  It's the only job I've ever had that I've been really good at and I can say with no hesitation that I am a great mom.  My boys have been my main focus for years, so now I'm mourning that part of my life when the boys were always underfoot and trying to grow into the role of supporter to my young adults.

And as for Oskar he gave us a little scare a few weeks ago when it seemed that his back problems from this summer had returned.  After we took him to the vet on an emergency trip and had everything checked out he immediately came home and was perfectly fine.  I'm still suspicious that something isn't right, his hips don't always seem to do what they should, but he's not in any pain or favoring any paws so I will just continue to watch him closely.

So Pam, where does that leave Pet Blogs United you ask?  The honest truth is I really don't know.

I want to get back to focusing on blogs and helping new bloggers find an audience.  I want to continue to do reviews & giveaways, but only of products that I feel passionate about.

It may be awhile before I'm back to being able to update a lot, but I treasure all of you who are our readers and friends.


Frankie Furter and Ernie said...

Dear Miss Pam and Oskar,
You KNOW that you are MISSED here in Blogville. Your Caring and LOVE and Furendship are MISSING. We will be THRILLED to have you back with us... WHENEVER you feel like. Tomorrow or two days from now... Just don't leave us.
YOU have HELPED SHAPE what Blogville IS. Add THAT to your LONG list of accomplishments.
Remember... in Blogville we Only JUDGE... those who dare to JUDGE OTHERS.

Susie and Sidebite said...

You take all the time you need, life being right is a lot more important then a blog, unless it makes you happy and helps you feel better. We will be here when you are ready. Hope Oskar is something simple and goes away.

We gots our paws crossed for both of you!

The Mad Scots

jane ng said...

Sorry to hear about what is happening. All the best. Love this blog, will come back when you are ready to roll :)

Brian said...

Well, we sure were glad to see you pop up on our reader program. Hugs from all of us. Howdy Oskar!

Amber DaWeenie said...

We've missed you and were so glad to hear from you. You were one of the first to welcome DaWeenies to Blogville.

Keep in touch and come back full force when you're ready! We'll all be here waiting with open paws!


The Cat From Hell said...

Dear Pam and Oskar,
Our Daddy is Bi-Polar and wes knows how tough it can bes. Wes sends yous lots of LOVE and Strength. We are always here and when yous posts and lets us knows yous is still OK, we is happy.
Kisses (and wes sends yous strength)
Nellie and Mommy

allyk said...

We sure hope everything sorts itself out. My friend just went through a similar experience with her three grown boys becoming young men and going off on their own. It took her a good year to get through the emotions and adjustment of it all. You take your time and take care of yourself and your family. Hopefully Oskar has nothing wrong with him and that sweet kitty behind him is providing some calming, purry vibes. I think cats can be magical that way. We don't comment a lot, but we do miss you.
Alyssa, Mr. Fox & Scruffy

Team Beaglebratz said...

To Pam and Oskar - Mom Kim here. You take all the time you need - come back when YOU are ready and don't let anyone else dictate when that is. I will admit that learning to redefine your role after raising kids is NOT something I have had to do but trying to figure out or redefine my role due to changes in health is something I have had experience with several times - in fact I am trying to figure out that again. As for judging anyone - who am I to judge - that's never been one of my roles.

Anyway, Blogville will be here when YOU are ready for it - I know you have been missed but we understand too that none of us have perfect lives and that real, everyday things can disrupt what we would really like to be doing but we don't have control over that. Ok - I am starting to ramble so that tells me I need to stop, get some rest like the Beaglebratz are already doing. Just you and Oskar take care and come back when you are ready. Prayers and hugs to both of you,
Mom Kim

The Swiss Cats said...

We're glad to hear about you again ! Take all the time you need to feel good, happy, and OK with yourself and your life ! Purrs

Andrea and the Celestial Kitties said...

Hugs! We're sorry for your struggle and hope things turn a corner for you soon. Please know that you have friends here who care about you!

Amy said...

Just take care of yourself and take your time. It's a positive step that you are ready to update everyone on how you've been, isn't it? Our youngest is 22 and living overseas this year so I can relate a little bit to missing the mom role. Eventually with the older ones we've transitioned into a really nice friend/mother/daughter relationship, and you have that to look forward to (well, friend/mother/son for you that is) :)

Molly The Wally said...

No worries you take it easy and get back to it when the time feels right. Sending hugs your way. Have a super Saturday.
Best wishes Molly

Emma said...

Good to hear from you. Several bloggers we know have just disappeared and we worry about what happened but are helpless in finding out. The main thing is to take care of yourself. You will get back to your blogging when you are ready and we will be here for you!

Lovable Lily said...

Hi Oskar and Pam! So good to hear from you again. We are saddened to hear you are having such a hard time with your health and all other things that are going on, so we've got out paws crossed for better days ahead.

We love you lot's and will always be here for you!!

Lily Belle & Muffin

Emmy Scammahorn said...

Pam, I don't know if I've ever heard a blogger say, "Here's what's going on," so honestly. I suffer with a mood disorder, as well, with its debilitating and insidious nature. It looks as you you have friends waiting for you when the pendulum swings the other way, friends who love you just as you are. Blessings, Emmy

modern nomad said...

Just know that you are not alone... we are here and will remain right here. When you are ready...

Lots of Noodle hugs

modern nomad said...

Just know that you are not alone... we are here and will remain right here. When you are ready...

Lots of Noodle hugs

speedyrabbit said...

come back when you are ready ,we will be here when you do,so just love your family human and fur kind alike and be well.and most of all you're not alone every single one of us are with you every step of the way,xx Hugs and Snuggle,xx Rachel and SPeedy

Cattle Aussies said...

Hi Pam and Oskar,

We're pretty new followers of your blog, but we have enjoyed what we've seen thus far. It's good to take a break from the computer every so often, so don't feel bad about doing that (we all need to unplug and unwind to stay balanced). And you still ARE a mom-to Oskar and your kids even though they are growing up. They will always be your kids-grow with them. Take everything one step at a time and one day at a time-who could ask for more?
Tell Oskar to stay healthy, but we hope he'll tell you if he's hurting (Bella has a horrible tendency to pretend she's fine and to stay tough).
We'll see you guys when you come back =)
~Tiffany & The Cattle Aussies

kmp said...

You just take the time you need, one day at a time. Know that you always have friends and support in Blogville!

Edgar and his mum

Henry's human said...

I've missed you Pam and am sorry to hear you are struggling. My cousin is bipolar and I've seen how overwhelming it can be. I send my very best wishes for your speedy recovery. Henry sends his "wuff" of course.

Henry's human said...

I've missed you Pam and am sorry to hear you are struggling. My cousin is bipolar and I've seen how overwhelming it can be. I send my very best wishes for your speedy recovery. Henry sends his "wuff" of course.

Misaki @ misadventuresofMisaki said...

Sorry you've had such a rough time of it of late.
Hugs to you all xxx

Quinn and Angel brandi said...

We understand depression. Take your time adjusting to all the changes in your life. Take time to look at all the positive things each day. It helps us.
And as for being a mom--you've raised pretty awesome boys. They look like very nice strong happy young men. And that's the best a mom can hope for!
We're patient. Do what you can to make YOU happy.

Jeanne Pursell said...

Dear Pam, You know what is best for YOU and we will all be here behind you 100% when you are ready to come back. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers that you will soon be feeling better. We all love you and will be more than happy to welcome you back with open arms!! xo Jeanne, Chloe and LadyBug

Dolly theDoxie said...

Yes Pam it seems you have come to a crossroads in your life and need to find a new role for yourself. I have had to reinvent myself so many times I have lost count. But it sounds like you have a loving family, & Oskar, to help support you. Not to mention all of blogville, as someone you gave a help getting started in the beginning I hope you find that your blog is your passion you have helped so many others, that maybe returning to blogging will help you this time. Sandra & Dolly

meowmeowmans said...

Hi Pam and Oskar,

We are so glad to hear from you, because darn it, we love you, pals! :)

Sorry to hear things are kind of rough right now, but please know that we are purring and praying for you, and that we will be here whenever you feel up to posting again.

We are thankful for you, and your friendship.


Jessica @ YouDidWhatWithYourWeiner.com said...

Sorry for your struggles Pam. My life is going through a transition right now too, although not as complex as yours, so I can relate. I also get little bouts of depression. Lately, it has felt like this underling low level of depression all of the time. I can't imagine what being Bi-polar is like for you but I hear how difficult it is for you. I know it's a struggle for me a lot of the time just to get basic stuff done. Hang in there and we'll see you when you get back.

Lauren @ Life With Desmond said...

Oh Pam, I'm so sorry to hear you've been going through all this. It's kind of strange--something must be going around Blogville, because many bloggers I've chatted with are having a blog identity crisis and feeling lost about where they're going. We'll all get it figured out, though!

As for what you wrote about your son, I just want to say thank you. If more parents cared that much, loved that much, and had that kind of compassion--that kind of desire to protect--for their kids, this world would be a much better place. He is very lucky to have you for a mom. Kudos!

Carma Poodale Allen said...

I apologize, I thought I replied to this when it first was written but I don't see my mug shot anywhere so if I did reply somewhere else forgive me for answering twice.
I was happy to see you come across my newsfeed. I was wondering what happened. It seems like a lot of bloggers are having problems trying to find themselves and what they want their blogs to be. I can say I had to take time off too due to not really what you call burnout but brain floof. Had a lot to write about but couldn't start the words.
I bet you are a pawtastic mom. If anyone says anything against your sons you let me know and I will have Scooby my chihuahua brother bite them! Sorry this Carma doesn't bite.
Please know that you are missed and loved by many. Wags to Oskar and hugs to you.

Rachel Sheppard said...

Hang in there! You will always be a mom! I am 26 and married and yesterday I still call my mom when I get sick, which actually I am right now and she was with me at the doctor yesterday. Your boys will always need you. I hope you feel better!

Momo and Pinot said...

Hello Pam and Oskar, sorry to hear that you're having a hard time. We just looked your post you featured us back in 2011 and it was fun. We've all enjoyed reading your blog. Please take your time and come back when you're ready. Thank you for sharing a beautiful picture with your boys. What a beautiful family and you're awesome mom!!

Momo, Pinot and mom

Jobi Harris said...

It is so nice to catch up with you again. I have been missing more than I am present these days, and I found out the world didn't end...and, I don't find that insulting. Much has to be taken care of, and things will get straightened in time. The thing for me - and for you, too - just relax and it will all unfold nicely, just as it should. Take good care of yourself!

Wesley McPoodleton said...

You take care of you, first and foremost! You are missed in Blogville, yes, but everyone will still be here waiting for you when you return!

Take care and feel better, and when you returned we'll all celebrate with lots of treats, yes?!

Angel Keisha said...

My hoomin has that too sometimes. I send hugs. Plz to get better soon! {{{hugs}}}

Austin Towers said...

Thank you for your honesty, Pam. You have been missed, but you don't need any pressure that's for sure! Please continue to get well and strong and snuggle Oskar xox

Kate Solenn Dean said...

Hello Pam! Why are your parents going to put Buster to sleep? Don't worry about Oskar, he's going to be fine. How old is he?


Chef Sasha said...

Pam I will pray for you. I have many of the same issues, so I do understand. I hope tomorrow is a good day for you.

Anne and Sasha

weliveinaflat said...

Rest well, focus on you, get better :) All the best!

Jans Funny Farm said...

Pam, you have been having a rough time. I know you will come through this. Don't worry about the site, just get better. You and Oskar are missed/

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